We Think About Our Enemies More Than the Ones We Love! Why?

<p>In my schooldays, I was badly reprimanded by a Math teacher for no fault of mine. He rebuked me in front of the whole class who couldn't help but simply mock. Burned to rage, I started playing mind games with him. I would ask him the most hard boiled questions and glare deep into his eyes if he couldn't solve them. Though my interest in the subject melted like a puddle from day dot. I would no way care about the thetas, omegas and sigmas in the class. Instead my mind got stuck in an intricate cobweb of cynical thoughts. I would spend hours pondering over his life thinking, 'Is his wife sick of him? Do his children wish him dead or is he barren? Will he die of brain tumor considering the filth in his mind? Does he have sex given his age?'</p><p>I knew I could no way reprimand him the way he did, so why not substitute revenge for framed negative stories. With accelerating contemplation, daydreaming about him delved deep into my blood. I couldn't help it, neither did I wanted to! It took me years to learn that it's nothing but a human tendency almost every single being on earth experience once in a while. In the meantime, we never realize that our energy channels are being wasted while execrating hostility within ourselves. Psychologists refer this phenomenon as the basic human instinct.</p><p>Every action has an equal and opposite reaction but when reactions don't eventuate, people either play the blame game or envisage their enemy to be in deep trouble. It comes more as a victory than a relief! Who wants to loose after all? Till then, we forget the love and care that is bestowed upon us by our beloved. Pessimism outlaws Optimism!</p><p>'Oh! Did he get admission in the best university? How come that frail pathogenic dud succeeds? I remember how rude he was when I asked him to lend me his bike for a few hours. I am dead sure he wouldn't land up with a suitable job and would eke-out to meet the ends one day.' This detrimental thinking seeds in a minute, buds within hours, crops within days and flourishes into a full-fledged weed until we realize the brutal truth of self made disturbing despair.</p><p>Psychologists claim that the basic purpose of human soul to visualize a hateful perception is the fulfillment of ego. The 'I' quenches its thirst as soon as our foes succumb to our pride in illusionary life. Perhaps the best way to stop daydreaming about the ones we hate is to forgive and let bygones be bygones. This way, we let go our suppressed feelings which gives birth to a peaceful mind. This definitely doesn't come easy but deliberate endeavors can win the mentality. I wish I had bore no malice for my Math teacher at least for the sake of scoring good marks!</p>